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September 27, 2010
Why do we always have to be so negative? What exactly are you supposed to be saying ‘no’ to? A kiss? … A hug? … Stroking each other to orgasm? … Penetration? If people are not aware of their options, they think that any sexual activity at all is out of bounds and that one thing necessarily leads to another. It makes much more sense to know how to say ‘yes’. You may decide on a non-sexual friendship. You may decide to delay intercourse until later in the relationship, or to wait until some future relationship.
There are definite benefits in delaying penetrative intercourse. It can give you the time to develop the communication and emotional and physical intimacy so necessary for a fulfilling relationship.
Not rushing into intercourse enables you to build your sensual skills gradually, learn to use your hands and your lips, get to know the sensitive parts of your partner’s whole body, learn how to move your body in ways that stimulate your partner. These skills are known as foreplay, but it’s probably time we dispensed with that term too. When we use the term ‘foreplay’ it presumes that it is a prelude to something else. ‘Before’ what? Before intercourse. The usual descriptions of the reasons for ‘foreplay’ are to get the woman wet enough for easy penetration. If that was the case then they could call lubricating gel ‘foreplay in a tube’. ‘Foreplay’ has traditionally been seen as a means to an end, rather than a totally satisfying experience in its own right. This is all tied in with the notion of ‘we didn’t go all the way’, which in other words means that the encounter was somehow incomplete because it did not involve the penis ending up in the vagina.
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The problem with the traditional concept of virginity is that it doesn’t allow for the spectrum of sexual pleasure that exists without intercourse. Because the emphasis is so strongly focused on the act of penetration, many don’t consider ‘outercourse’ to be ‘real sex’. That is the ‘If it’s not in, then it’s not on!’ attitude. Yet it can be a valid and satisfying option, given the language to talk about it and the skills and confidence to negotiate what’s okay for both partners. The important thing is to describe the activities and exactly what risks they might involve in specific terms, leaving no room for misunderstanding.
Saying no to intercourse can mean all sorts of things. It can mean ‘I’m not emotionally ready for intercourse yet’ or ‘I like you as a friend but I don’t ever want a sexual relationship with you’ or ‘I want to show you that I’m physically attracted to you but I don’t want you to get the wrong idea.’
The ‘safe’ options will involve masturbating each other, body to body rubbing, tickling, massage, kissing, hugging, imagination and fantasy and using sex toys (like a vibrator), while avoiding any genital to genital contact.
It helps for each person to work out in advance ‘What’s okay for me … What’s okay for you … What do we both feel comfortable with?’ In the heat of the moment is a difficult time to have a rational discussion. It is extraordinary that most people find it more intimate and confronting to talk about sex than to do it. The old attitude ‘I close my eyes and it just happens’ is a recipe for disaster. Closed eyes and closed minds increase the casualties of the war of ignorance.
Knowing about the options is the first big step. Convincing a partner about what you want can be another thing. The key to this is caring enough about yourself to put your needs first, but that is not always easy. Society rewards selflessness and generosity. Charity workers are applauded. Military medals are presented to servicemen and -women who put the lives of others ahead of their own. You will never see a medal presentation for self-interest or self-preservation. Yet these are the very qualities that are vital to sexual health.
Sex education is evolving all the time. We have moved away from the ‘sperm meets egg’ saga and there is more emphasis on the interactions of real people. However, over the years there has been an emphasis in sex education on saying no’ to sex, particularly where young people are concerned. Far short of addressing anything remotely resembling reality, this approach to sex education denies permission for young people to express the powerful sexual and emotional feelings they are experiencing. These feelings can be confusing at any age but simply telling someone to ignore them or to distract themselves or ‘Wait until you’re older’ is totally ineffective.
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